Negative Nancy

Of late there seems to be a lot of negativity in the fitness industry. A lot of this actually appears to be coming from women, directed at other women. In my opinion, real women support each other. We lift each other up we don’t tear each other down.  We should be encouraging other women to be strong and confident, no matter where they are in their fitness journey.

I’ve seen comments from nasty young girls discrediting competitors because of the division they compete in. This is just appalling. Firstly, be humble. Arrogance is not attractive. Especially coming from someone who has no idea what they are talking about. Secondly, anyone who gets on stage, regardless of the division they compete in, should be commended, not ridiculed. You don’t know where they started their journey, and you shouldn’t have to. No one needs to justify themselves to anyone other than themselves.

I have seen it all lately. A supposed “pro” female competitor had photos on her page with rude comments about other competitors in the Arnold Sports Festival she competed in. She was judging them in a negative way very publicly. Yes this is a sport that is judged purely on looks, but this was completely uncalled for. F*ck you lady. The other competitors physiques and conditioning are no ones business except for theirs and the judges in my opinion. Yes everyone is entitled to an opinion of course, but not saying anything at all trumps saying something nasty. And to be honest it says more about who is doing the talking than anything. She has lost a lot of fans because of it and rightly so.

Why people feel the need to tear others down is beyond me. Yes there are some major problems in the fitness industry already, but this seems to be a much more recent issue and it’s getting worse. What is it about being rude and belittling others that appeals to some people? I can’t understand it.

Online forums don’t help this problem. The amount of facebook posts I have seen from coaches, trainers and the like, publicly naming and shaming others, and getting in to stupid petty arguments online with people they don’t even know is actually getting beyond a joke. Surely there is something better you could be doing with your time rather than arguing with a complete stranger on the internet about whether clean eating is better than paleo?? (Newsflash, they’re both sh*t.) The amount of posts I have seen, directly attacking someone personally, is a lot. And I mean a lot. And it seems to be the same ones doing it. I creep about online all the time. I read, (make popcorn in some cases) and don’t necessarily comment or like the posts, but just take it all in. I see names pop up and I remember them. And boy does it make me laugh. It’s the SAME PEOPLE. At what point do you stop and think, how is this being even remotely productive? In my opinion, if you ask yourself is what you are doing going to give a positive return on your time and the answer is no (apart from an ego boost at best) then what exactly is the point? I don’t get it.

Hours upon hours must be spent by people simply arguing their point online, usually with people they have never even met. I see some absolutely horrible comments. Nasty, personal attacks bringing people down. Actually this isn’t just exclusive to the fitness industry, it’s the online world in general. It seems people have no trouble saying such horrible things when they are hidden behind their IP addresses (or are they…?) and for what? What a complete waste of time. And I doubt they would say the same things to these people in real life given the chance.  

I don’t have time for this anymore. I used to get sucked in to a few online debates here and there, and I will still add a comment when I see something that I strongly disagree with, but going back and forth, to and fro, playing this stupid frustrating game of “who knows more” really comes down to who’s a bigger f*ckwit and has more time on their hands. Surely no one can be that bored. It really does take a bigger person to simply walk way. But walking away can’t affect your blood pressure levels as much as playing tit for tat would. Learn to let it go. Spend time being productive rather than destructive. If you aren’t part of the solution you’re part of the problem.

I get that people are passionate about things. I am most definitely one of those people. Get me talking about nutrition, diet, training, competing etc and I will go on and on as long as you’ll let me. But being passionate, and trying to help people in a positive way surely has to be more effective than arguing and getting in to online pissing contests with people you don’t even know. What does their opinion, or the fact their opinion is different to yours even matter? Let them think what they like what’s the problem? Unless someone is seriously causing harm to others (low cal diets, restriction, MLM BS!!!!) then why not leave them be, thus giving yourself more time for more important matters.

Don’t get me wrong, I do love a good debate. And I think having a difference of opinion is great, it’s refreshing to be able to have a conversation with someone who does have a different opinion and can articulate it coherently without resorting to personal juvenile attacks. There should be more of this. It’s a great way to learn. It says more about your character and integrity, and I think that being helpful and providing good information in a positive way is much better than being negative and argumentative just for the sake of it.

There needs to be more support, and more positivity especially amongst females in the fitness industry in particular. We should promote a healthy lifestyle. Encourage one another to embrace ourselves for who we are right now, no matter how far we still have to go. There is no place for negativity and comparing ourselves to others and there is no place for condescending attitudes or bringing others down. Anyone doing this clearly has other issues to deal with. Worry less what others are doing, and focus on being the best you possible. Be humble, be genuine, it’s easier, less stressful and more rewarding.